Female Friendship | How to ‘Find Your Tribe’ Once and For All

You’ve heard all the hype about “finding a tribe.” It’s everywhere from bachelorette decor to t-shirts at Forever 21. What does this really mean? What if you don’t have a tribe? Is it ok to have more than one tribe? These Resource Girls are here to dispel some myths and let you know it’s ok if you don’t have a tribe and how you can find one.


The older we’ve gotten the more we’ve realized that you’re just not going to jive with everyone and that’s ok. LC moved around a lot growing up and Cat has always had an independent streak, so we’ve never been ones to shy away from doing things on our own. As much as we love being independent, strong, confident women, we have also seen a huge value in surrounding ourselves with a tribe of women who just get it. Variety is the spice of life and it’s important to have people you can relate to and count on in all areas of your life.

In the Workplace

Both of these Resource Girls can attest to the importance of having people that understand your job. It is important to lean on co-workers when your job is tough and not many people understand. If you don’t have that kind of relationship with your co-workers maybe it’s time to get vulnerable and be the first to start a conversation. Obviously mixing your personal life and work can be tricky, but we can both say you can’t always expect your significant other or family to understand what you’re going through at the workplace. We spend so many hours at our jobs! We would challenge you to reach out to someone new if you don’t have a co-worker confidant.


In the Gym

Finding a tribe at the gym can be difficult. People are usually there for one thing: to get their workout in and then leave. If you’re looking for a tribe at the gym we’d definitely encourage you to join a fitness class. These are the easiest way to meet like-minded people who can help move you in your fitness game. Also, a friendly smile, an uplifting word and cheering people on as you see them working out doesn’t hurt either. Also, never underestimate the power of invitation. We can definitely attest to the fact that we would not be where we are in our fitness journey without inspiration from other women. You don’t have to be in amazing shape or know how to use all the equipment at the gym to motivate others. Start where you’re at and bring others along for the ride. You never know who you’ll inspire and in return could bloom into a fitness tribe you never saw coming.


Social media can definitely be a double-edged sword. Although there can be so much negativity and drama, we also see so many people shining bright in the virtual world. Social media, like anything in life, is what you make it. We say make your feed work for you and create the tribe you want in this space. We always strive to be those people bringing the sun and good vibes as we know just how important it is for us to see and hear that inspiration as well. Never underestimate the power of following the right people on social media and listening to podcasts. We both have women that we admire and follow on social media. If you don’t have a tribe of positive people in your life do not let this hold you back, find them online, send them a message and thank them! It’s crazy what happens when you put the right things in your mind and be that person you want to attract.


There’s that age old saying…you have to be a friend to make a friend.  This couldn’t be more true in finding your own personal tribe. If you want positive, uplifting, and like minded people around you, then you yourself have to put those good vibes out in the universe. Shine your light and we promise the right people will find their way into your rays!

What are your tips for making new friends as an adult? Share with us in the comments below.

Grab a friend and try these partner workouts:

Stability Ball Partner Workout

BFF Workout: 5 Moves for You and a Friend

Partner Planks: A Workout He’ll Really Love

Or invite a new friend over for craft night and try this Easy DIY Macrame Wall Hanging.

Cat and Lauren are two best friends who started The Resource Girls to encourage and empower women to be themselves! We’re two girls who survived our twenties as strong, successful, independent women in this crazy world. We blog about fashion, fitness, finance, food and friendship but most of all loving ourselves and embracing who we are. Connect with Cat and Lauren at www.theresourcegirls.com, Twitter, Instagram.

Photo Credit: Brigitte Fries @d.lilasphotography