“THERE IS A LOT TO BE SAID ABOUT HOW SEXY YOU FEEL WHEN YOU DISCOVER YOUR FITNESS. WHEN YOU FEEL STRONG AND HEALTHY AND COMFORTABLE IN YOUR BODY, YOU ARE LIKELY TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE AND ENJOYMENT EVERYWHERE YOU GO, AND THAT INCLUDES THE BEDROOM, EVEN IF YOU AREN’T THERE TO GET ANY SLEEP.” ~ CAMERON DIAZ, THE BODY BOOK.
I love this line from Cameron’s first book. The language is so expansive—“sexy”, “discover”, “strong”, “healthy”, “comfortable”, “confidence”, “enjoyment”…“bedroom”.
Yet, so much of the time we feel the exact opposite of this—contracted, tight, stressed, achey, unsure, even fearful. And when we feel like this, it can be hard to get back to that juicy, sexy, expansive version of ourselves or even remember what that feels like.
Get Back Into Your Body
I’ve written before about the mind-body connection—how your thinking, emotional and physical selves are all interconnected. So when you feel emotionally tight and contracted, this shows up in your physical body. Your muscles are stiff and inflexible and you’re more susceptible to soreness, headaches and low energy.
Tightness and tension in your body are a clear sign that something’s out of whack. We spend so much time in our heads—worrying, stressing, planning and problem-solving—that we become disconnected from our bodies. When we feel something that makes us uncomfortable—whether it’s physical or emotional—our first instinct is to numb the sensation so that we can power through and do what it is we need to get done. We use painkillers, alcohol, drugs and a million other forms of distraction to mask the pain so we can just get through the day.
But we can’t trick our bodies and when we stuff down our emotions, they get stuck in our bodies and block our flow. We need to find a way to allow those unpleasant feelings to pass through us. And the best way to do that is to move. Even if it is the last thing you feel like doing, to get back your vibrancy and vitality, you need to get your body moving and the energy flowing freely again.
It’s all in the Hips
Your hips are where the magic happens. If you free up your hips, the rest of your body will follow. Unfortunately, conventional training like running, lifting weights and team sports, typically make your hips tighter and less open, so this approach to movement may actually be contributing to your feelings of tightness, friction and frustration.
We need to balance out the yang in our lives with softer, yin practices that bring us back into our femininity and restore our inner equilibrium.
• Yoga is a mind-body practice that works on several levels to remove blockages and get you back into flow.
• Yoga increases blood flow and circulation throughout your body, especially to your pelvic area.
• Yoga increases your flexibility, which comes in handy in the bedroom.
• Yoga calms down your central nervous system and helps you to unwind.
• Yoga increases your awareness of the sensations in your body.
• Yoga helps you to focus on the present and not get lost in thoughts of the past or future.
• Yoga increases your confidence in your body and in your place in the world.
• Yoga eases stiff muscles and can help you to feel more supple.
• Yoga relieves the aches, pains and discomfort that are sapping your energy.
• Yoga helps you to get deeper and more restorative sleep.
Get the Juices Flowing
Here are a some yoga moves you can do to feel more sexy, supple and confident.
Stay relaxed, deepen your breath and focus on the sensations in your body. Try to be present and not distracted by the boring stuff like what you’re going to have for dinner, or anything that’s worrying you. All that can wait. Move your hips and start to get the energy flowing through your body again.
You can do these moves on their own, one at a time or put them together into a sequence.
ABI CARVER designs 15-minute yoga routines to improve flexibility, strength and balance, de-stress and ease aches and pains. Her videos are available to download from her site www.yoga15.com. Follow her on Instagram @yoga15abi for more yoga tips, tricks and inspiration.
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