Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. – Thich Nhat Hanh
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. – Buddha
Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi, Thirteenth Century Sufi poet
Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting. – William Shakespeare, Henry V.
If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else? – RuPaul
As we approach all of the chaos or comfort that Cupid and his little bow might cause this weekend we wanted to talk about the most important kind of love; it’s the foundation that allows love to come to you in all of your relationships– whether platonic, romantic, maternal, fraternal– it is the most vital and often the hardest to give– the love you have for yourself.
You know it is easier to be kind, gentle, and tender to a friend who is in pain? To lend a concerned ear to them when they need to be heard. To celebrate their accomplishments or to rally around them when they fall short of their mark. Why is it always easier to see the good in someone who might not be giving the best of themselves to you. It’s always easy to do these things for other people, which are all really just an act of love. In the moments when you are the person on the other side that needs of someone to be that friend for you, stop, and think how would I treat someone else that was in need? Better yet ask yourself “how would I want to be treated at this moment?” and then be your own good friend, and treat yourself with the same kindness, care, tenderness, compassion and value, excitement and pride. See yourself as the person who needs that hug and take yourself into your own arms and comfort yourself and feel the love that you have deserved to give yourself all along.
When you understand and nurture this love, it opens the doors for the rest to flourish and sustain. When you respect yourself, spend time learning about yourself and take care of your mind, body and heart, you’ll start to find that when you treat yourself with kindness, compassion and affection. As you explore the nature of love within yourself, your ability to take it outward, and let others love you back, you’ll see the possibilities are endless.
With your own heart as your anchor, practice unconditional love for yourself in all your glory and imperfection, and you’ll never need more. So whether you’re betrothed, single, or it’s complicated; do yourself a favor; buy yourself your favorite flower, write yourself a love poem, take yourself out to dinner, have a dance party in your living room, whatever you do, just love yourself with all of your might.
– Cameron ox